If you meet up with your ex and make her feel the same old types of emotions that turned her off you in the first place, she isn’t going to very interested in giving the relationship another shot.However, when you make her feel respect and attraction for you in ways that she’s never experienced before, that is when things begin to change in her mind.There’s nothing wrong with being persistent or assertive while getting her back, but just make sure that you don’t give her the impression that she doesn’t have a choice in the matter. Don’t call her friends or family and ask for their help.Her friends and family will usually take her side and if they don’t, she will quickly convince them to.She might not openly admit it, but she will feel it. The more pressure you put on her, the more she will want to distance herself from you.You and her were individuals before you met each other, you were individuals while you were in a relationship (despite how close you both felt) and you are both individuals right now.She feels confused that all of a sudden, she’s feeling so attracted to you and she begins to rationalize that as being a sign that she should give you another chance.Once the relationship is back together, you then deepen the love, respect and attraction that she feels for you and she won’t want to break up again.
If you have honestly learned how to be more confident than you were before, it WILL come across when she interacts with you and it WILL make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. Don’t hound her with calls, letters and text messages.
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is posting up lonely photos of themselves on social media.
Some guys don’t even post anything on social media and when their ex girlfriend stops by to have a look, she sees the same old profile photo and status updates and assumes that he’s just sitting around missing her.
If Even if she has unfriended you or blocked you, she will still stop by your social media accounts from time to time (and unblock you temporarily) to see what you’ve been up to.
If she can see that you are happy without her, she will be much more open to communicating with you and meeting up with you because she won’t be worried about you desperately trying to get her back.